A remarkable gravestone in Waltham Forest Muslim cemetery

If tears could build a stairway / And memories a lane, / We’d walk right up to heaven / And bring you home again.

A moving tribute to

A moving tribute to "Aji" by his relatives.

Once more unto the hedge, for blackberries. But there are too many University of Foraging graduates on Walthamstow Marshes, so I walked up the Lea Navigation to combine picking with poking around. No elevenses at Edmonton, because now that everything on the left bank has been demolished the demolition workers no longer require the Lea Side Café, and they will presumably flatten it before they go:

The Romanian squatter camp just north of the North Circular has also seen better days, so I backtracked down Harbet Road and Folly Lane, popular fly-tipping destinations on which Waltham Forest Council may or may not have a handle, and past the British gypsy cul-de-sac, which for some reason a Google Street View car decided not to document fully:

Next door is the Waltham Forest Muslim Burial Trust, which appears to cater mainly for Bengali and Turkish Sunni. The stones of some of the more ancient of the former recall pre-Independence and -Partition administrative divisions, and I guess that before fundamentalist clerics began to insist on one-day burial many corpses would have been repatriated, as was the grandfather of a Bangladeshi school friend. In line with the modern (and thus mutable) consensus (“Religious authorities from all different backgrounds are united in the belief that Muslim graves should not be elaborate constructions and should not be raised high off the ground“), headstones should be rectangular and of a maximum of 24 inches in height and 18 inches in width.[1]I don’t know if any Christian sects are similarly restrictive, but the Biblical starting point seems to be pretty vague. You will need to go elsewhere and have made friends with the planners if your love for the departed is such that you wish to emulate the greatest of all Muslim grave markers:

Image: © Yann Forget / Wikimedia Commons / CC-BY-SA-3.0.

The southwest-northeast alignment of the regimented shiqq-style(?) trench graves foxed me, until I discovered the custom of laying corpses on their right side so that their head may face in the general direction of Mecca:

Image: Thankful Slave.

Arab fundamentalists ban women from visiting graveyards,[2]The taboo finds additional justification from men on the grounds that “In most cases women are not able to control their feelings, so if a woman is afflicted with the loss of someone who is dear to her, and she goes out to visit his grave, that may lead to her falling into some prohibited actions such as wailing, panicking and the like.”

Islamic “feminists” appear to support this discrimination, for shrines “are the centre of corruption, filth, dirt and all sorts of pervert practices. Instead of demanding the rights to enter, women should stop visiting such shrines as it would not empower them in anyway. Every fight for equality is not emancipation.”
but a Bengali family entered as I left, so perhaps a liberal view prevails in that respect. Another extreme view is that “It is not permissible to plant trees on graves, whether they are Indian fig trees or any other kind, or to sow barley or wheat or anything else on them, because the Messenger did not do that to graves, and neither did the Rightly Guided Caliphs who succeeded him (may Allaah be pleased with them),” but I did rather enjoy this sunflower and several other palm frondsfloral tributes, and may the Celestial Authorities protect the gardener if the Saudis are ever brave enough to undisappear the founder of that website:

But let us turn to the verse which is this subject of this post. Around this time last year I tweeted from St. Patrick’s Roman Catholic Cemetery in Leytonstone:

And here it is again (see the lead photo): twice as long, and, I think, the very only verse in the entire cemetery:

It broke our hearts to lose you
But you did not go alone,
For part of us went with you,
The day Allah called you home.

If tears could build a stairway
And memories a lane,
We’d walk right up to heaven
And bring you home again.

I don’t know its origins, but the second stanza is quite ingenious, and worthy of adoption, whatever one’s background. If I were to sing it I’d probably change “The day Allah” to “When Allah.” Maybe one day I’ll get a chance.


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  1. It’s quite obvious the writer is ignorant of Islamic jurisprudence and as a result ascribes the impermissibility of women visiting graves to what they have termed “Islamic fundamentalism”?! In the link below, you will notice that this opinion i.e. barring women from visiting graves was actually held by adherents to some of the Four Respected Schools of Thought.

    https://www.fikhguide.com/tourist/historical/248 Google translate should assist in getting the gist.

    The writer also stated “Another extreme view is that “It is not permissible to plant trees on graves.” This leaves you to question, on what grounds they deem things extreme or otherwise? Clearly if they have understood that this was not from the practice of the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم and his Caliphs never did so, surely this would make them extreme too?!

    As for writing on graves, then in the link below you notice this was prohibited by a number of jurists. Check out the following link: https://dorar.net/feqhia/2024/%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B7%D9%84%D8%A8-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AB%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AB-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%83%D8%AA%D8%A7%D8%A8%D8%A9-%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%82%D8%A8%D8%B1

    I honestly didn’t want to comment but was alarmed by the ignorance of writer about Islamic Fiqh coupled with their audacity. What a horrible combination!

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